Srinagar, June 21: A 12-year-old class 7 student, Abdullah Bin Zubair, released his collection of poems, ‘No Place for Good’ in a function held here on Sunday. The function was organised by the publishers of the anthology Jay Kay Books.
The book “No Place For Good” is a collection of poems with themes revolving from metaphysics to resistance. Some of the poems are philosophical in nature whereas some are political satire.
The book release function was attended by poets, writers and other members of society including Kashmiri satirist Zareef Ahmad Zareef, filmmaker Faruq Masoodi, cardiologist and columnists Dr U Koul. They praised Abdullah fir achieving such a feat at a very young age.
“With such conducive environment and under the great guidance of his parents, the child has learnt a lot. He is a role model for his generation,” said Zareef.
Dr Koul termed Abdullah’s poetry collection a remarkable and sensitive book.
Abdullah, a voracious reader, started writing poems at the age of 8 in 2016. Abdullah is also interested in filmmaking.
On this occasion, filmmaker Faruq Masoodi spoke about budding writers. “If we have writers like Zubair, we shouldn’t lose hope,” he said. “It is a pleasure to know and see a child writing at such a tender age.”
In the end, Abdullah expressed gratitude to one and all present at the release function.
Tribute to grandmother
A Person with Social Isolation Schema
“There comes a point in your life when you realize;
Who never did,
Who won’t anymore,
And who always will.
So, don’t worry about people from your past, there’s a reason why they didn’t make it to your future.”
― Adam Lindsay Gordon
When I was a kid, my grandmother always used to tell me about her life experiences, her childhood, her married life, family, relatives, her struggle to sustain, and moreover about her friends.
As a kid, I was unable to understand the meaning of those messages, but it was always the tone, style of narration and above all the melodious voice which used to hook me to her stories. The messages being conveyed used to carry the life in revealed form and the interpretation of its stages. She used to share with me the experience of being a lone fighter in the battle against the physical and material world.
She made me understood that ‘one neither has an eternal companion nor has strong support but rather a fragile and weak shoulder which keeps bending with time and then breaks off, further the bitter, but the true essence of life is recognizing yourself. The haste never adds beauty to it rather spoils and makes it homogenous to an extent that one cannot separate the two.
As a kid, I kept asking my grandmother, ‘why people left her? Was it because she wasn’t good or was it because they too were fed up with existence or what?’ The grandma used to silence me by saying: ‘I wasn’t good for all of them.’
Grandmother made me understand that we humans besides hating each other have a weak creed of loving somebody to the moon once in a lifetime. We always tend to stay, walk, talk and laugh with that person whatever the circumstances.
My conversations always concluded with the sentence: ‘Did you find that person in your life grandma?’ The response always used to be “No, not yet”. Grandma knowing it well that time reveals everything as per the demand and the time demanded to keep me in deception. She somehow told me about the arrival of that person who will stay by her side eternally and that person she was talking about never came in my presence.
I know now who that person is and why he will never cease to love her but knowing this; jubilation took a back seat in my life. I also understood that if the same would have been revealed to me at that time, I would have cried a lot.
June 21, 2021 was the day when my grandma met her eternal love, never to return. She left us, she left us all, the same way as she was left alone by her close ones.
Recapitulating again her stories, I now know what she was telling me in my childhood. Now, I understand and can interpret all her stories what exactly she meant. My grandmother was suffering from social isolation schema. Unfortunately, she couldn’t find out what these feelings are all about.
Social isolation schema is a mental phenomenon where Individuals experience certain forms of disconnection or rejection which in turn develops one or more of these schemas: abandonment, mistrust/abuse, emotional deprivation, defectiveness/shame, and social isolation.
All she told me about her dealings with people around was full of negativities. In her stories, I found only pain, loneliness, cunningness, longingness, mistrust, deception, dishonesty, disloyalty and above all hypocrisy rather than something good.
In her life, she faced all types of adversities, but her positive approach in dealing with all this is a forever lesson for me. “Ath Lagan Jigre te myane gaasha dunya chunna pewaan basawun, natte diyyan ne nebbar nearne” which meant, it takes courage to face all this, besides people around will not let you live. These teachings taught me that you don’t always get roses, thorns accompany you too.
I remember a story in which she told me that once there was a man who looked towards the sky in the night. The man fell in love with the stars and thought these are his friends. The man used to wave his hand towards the sky when stars twinkle, thinking that these stars are talking with him. The stars became part of his life. The man was happy with his new friends. One night, he looked into the sky and found there where no one among his friends in the sky. The man waited for many days but no one returned. Deeply sad and depressed, the man started cursing his fate.
One night in his dream he saw these stars laughing at him. Angrily he told the stars why they are laughing at him and his response was: ‘O man, why you fell in love with us when you know we can’t stay for anyone? It is in our nature to fade away and we survive like this. Moreover, nature has reached its heights of perfection in the form of humans and know it, you human beings attain the peak of perfection in individual consciousness. Be always conscious in your life. Don’t curse your existence, you humans are unique, love yourself, and be human.’
All I could understand from the advice of my grandmother is that don’t get attached to anyone in this life as no one will stay always with you. You have to live this life all alone. Make your ends meet by yourself and make it to the end. You will gradually but certainly come to know that who and what matters and vice versa. People come and go, consider it a mere routine. Just live and let people live.
My grandmother besides having a notion of social isolation schema dealt with it all alone, perhaps because she had already understood how to deal with all this.
We all have our own thesis of our lives, our experiences serve us as antithesis, and we have to synthesize our lives based upon our experiences. We have to learn things with each passing time sort out the good and bad and then relearn to make this life better. This activity of building and tearing itself apart, to rebuild itself is the life of being.“Act as if the maxim of your action were to become by your will a universal Law of nature”- Immanuel Kant.
Author is a Mass Communication and Journalism pass out from the University of Kashmir’s Media Studies Department. He can be contacted at: [email protected]
Sopore NGO helps 124 families with monthly food, necessities
Wular Foundation provides medical support, PPE Kits, daily meals to COVID19 patients
Sopore: While the coronavirus has indiscriminately wreaked havoc across the globe, it has also paralysed already tottering the health system. In Kashmir, the COVID19 outbreak is believed to have caused a huge dent in the already sinking economy due to continuous lockdowns from the last few years.
Over the years, local charities in Kashmir have played a key role in helping the needy by providing meals, medical assistance, and other key services to low-income groups. Started by some local residents, Wular Foundation is one such organisation operating from apple town Sopore. Over the last 40 days of the lockdown in Kashmir, Wular Foundation is providing meals to COVID19 patients in SDH Sopore, besides its regular charity work. The organization is feeding 124 families for the last 5 years.
“We are operating for the last 5 years, but most of our members want to remain low key. After the outbreak of the second wave of COVID19 we started to provide meals to the coronavirus patients in SDH Sopore due to which our organisation was noticed by the public,” said Shanawaz Nabi Marazi, general secretary of the Wular Foundation. “Initially, we had identified 87 needy families and provided them food items on monthly basis. Now, we are feeding 124 families on monthly basis, we do it just for the sake of Allah, on a humanitarian basis.”
Since the consecutive lockdowns affected the livelihood of a huge number of people on one side and on the other side there was a surge in daily cases of COVID19 cases. The death and the discrimination faced by the people who were suspected to have the virus added to their struggle. It was only due to the public support that needy people could get some support to sustain themselves and their families. With this spirit, Wular Foundation provides daily 150 meals to COVID19 affected people and their attendants.
“People from the marginalised sections and far-flung areas face immense hardships in difficult situations like the current pandemic. A similar situation we witnessed at the SDH Sopore. It would be very difficult for the people, who would come for the treatment from various far-off areas, to arrange food and other basic needs during the lockdown in the town,” said chairman Wular Foundation, Khursheed Ahmad. “That is why we decided to help such people, besides supporting the needy families. Now we are also providing medicines, PPE kits, medical equipment and ambulance services to help people come out of this pandemic.”
“The most wonderful thing was how the community around us responded,” said Mehraj-ud-Din Patni, Vice president of the Foundation. “Initially people would be reluctant to donate to our organisation, but that changed when we started to work in the hospitals and provide the basic aids. People came out to support and the whole thing became a community effort rather than an organisation.”
Wular Foundation is based in Sopore but is now expanding to other parts of the Baramulla district with each passing day volunteers and donors continuously joining hands. The organization acts upon calls they receive on daily basis.
“From last two months we have spent good amount for distributing meals, PPE kits, medical equipment and ambulance services, all this was not possible without the passion, determination and drive of the hundreds of volunteers who came from different corners to lend a hand to the forgotten, the ignored and the marginalized,” said a member of the foundation, Waseem Beigh.
The foundation is now providing free dialysis to patients, as well as, organising blood donation camps and cleanness drive in Sopore city. Last month, the Wular Foundation with Dia Foundation arranged money for the surgery of a girl in Khyber Hospital, Srinagar.
“Wular Foundation mostly deals with marginalized people. So, in whatever way we can, we provide help. Last month a girl from Sopore was suffering from chronic heart disease. We tried our best in whatever way we could. However, we need the support of the people so that we can help more and more needy ones,” said Shanawaz.
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